My journey in practicing non-attached love has been an eye-opening, transformative experience. It began with a realization that true love goes beyond possession and control, and it involves embracing the freedom and autonomy of both myself and my partner.
I embarked on this path daily, and I have to confront my own insecurities and fears that had been deeply ingrained within me. I am learning to let go of expectations and the need for constant reassurance, understanding that love is not about clinging to desire, and this includes romantic desire, but about allowing each person to flourish in their own unique way.
Non-attachment in love means letting go of expectations, possessiveness, and the need for control. It is about allowing the other person to be their authentic self, honoring their journey, and supporting their growth without trying to mold them into our idealized version. Non-attachment recognizes that love is not about possessing or controlling someone, but about fostering a sense of freedom and autonomy within the relationship.
Compassion is an essential element that accompanies non-attachment in love. It involves seeing others’ suffering and responding with kindness, empathy, and understanding. Compassion allows us to extend love beyond ourselves and to embrace the interconnectedness of all beings. It means holding space for others’ struggles and offering support without judgment or expectation.
When love is infused with non-attachment and compassion, it becomes a transformative and liberating force. It allows us to cultivate a deep sense of inner peace and contentment, as we release the need for external validation and find fulfillment within ourselves. Non-attachment and compassion in love enable us to appreciate and cherish the beauty of each moment, knowing that everything is impermanent.
Practicing non-attachment and compassion in love requires inner work and mindfulness. It involves cultivating self-awareness, letting go of ego-driven desires, and embracing the inherent beauty and uniqueness of every individual. By embodying non-attachment and compassion, we create space for love to thrive authentically, fostering growth, and creating a harmonious and fulfilling connection with ourselves and others.
Its not as easy as it Looks!
Personally I find that when I am living in my bliss when I am being authentic and true to myself I very rarely have to focus on my non-attachment and compassion. But often these moments are far and few between. And I find myself getting caught up in my humanness and encapsulated by the demands and programming of the matrix. So I have to admit that I find this very difficult and I have to focus and practice non-attachment every single day. I also have no expectations that this practice will end anytime soon. So try not to be too hard on yourself it’s not as easy as it looks.
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What do the Stars say?
So what does it look like astrologically when we are looking for love, compassion, unconditional love. Often those that are empathic and sensitive or ones that inhabit the Astro Jean so to speak of compassion and unconditional love. Of course naturally we all possess access to this and encompassing love and compassion we don’t own it we access it and all of us have the ability to do that. But some of us are someone plagued by compassion and non-conditional love in a world that is full of conditions and extremely void of compassion. I’m not talking about individual people I’m talking about all of us as a collective just look around.
However if you have a lot of water in your chart such as Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces and or Neptune, with positive or challenging aspect to other planets, as well as a predominant amount of planets in the fourth, eighth and twelfth house. Then you can be physically, emotionally, psychologically and/or energetically prone to having more compassion and the ability of unconditional love. Now you also have to take a look at the aspects of your Moon and the aspects of Venus.
Don’t get too excited, this can also be a curse, but not always and it doesn’t have to be. When we are exceptionally compassionate and exhibit unconditional love, we can have people take it advantage of us. They may rely on you and create a codependent relationship. Or you may do this with them. It does take two. There may be such a sensitivity that it’s difficult for you to walk amongst the crowd, specifically in situations in which there is suffering, such as hospitals for instance. Therefore these people have to be very careful of the career that they choose. They also have to 2° choose a career in which they can use her unconditional love and compassion and so that they don’t take on stray dogs and support needy codependent family members lovers and or friends as often many times we cannot be their counsellors or therapists or caregivers nor do we want to as this is an unhealthy codependent relationship.
However if you were here to learn nonattachment and in fact you’ve experienced living in other realms previous to this lifetime where you have experienced living in a nonattachment environment than astrologically you will be prominent in these signs etc
Most of them but they are not limited to, Gemini, Virgo, and Aquarius, as well as prominent aspects from the planet Uranus and the 3rd and 9th house.
Of course this is a loose guide and having a proper astrological chart reading is the best way to know where your predispositions are with compassion and non-attachment.
In conclusion I could not leave this article without yet another small lesson please review the below. Namaste.
Practicing compassion and non-attachment can bring about greater inner peace and harmony in our lives. Here are five steps to help you cultivate these qualities:
1. Cultivate Self-Compassion: Begin by cultivating compassion towards yourself. Acknowledge your own struggles, imperfections, and limitations with kindness and understanding. Treat yourself with the same compassion you would extend to a loved one.
2. Cultivate Empathy for Others: Develop the ability to empathize with others by putting yourself in their shoes. Seek to understand their perspectives, experiences, and emotions without judgment. Practice active listening and validate their feelings.
3. Practice Loving-Kindness Meditation: Engage in loving-kindness meditation to expand your capacity for compassion. In this practice, send well wishes and love to yourself, loved ones, neutral people, and even difficult individuals. Cultivate a sense of interconnectedness and extend goodwill to all beings.
4. Let Go of Attachments: Recognize that attachment to outcomes, possessions, and even relationships can lead to suffering. Practice non-attachment by letting go of expectations and accepting the impermanence of life. Embrace change and flow with the natural rhythm of existence.
5. Engage in Service and Acts of Kindness: Find opportunities to serve others selflessly. Engaging in acts of kindness and generosity can awaken compassion within you and cultivate a sense of interconnectedness. Volunteer, help those in need, or simply offer a listening ear to someone who needs it.
Remember, cultivating compassion and non-attachment is an ongoing practice that requires patience, self-reflection, and dedication. By integrating these steps into your daily life, you can gradually cultivate a greater sense of compassion towards yourself and others while learning to let go and find inner peace.